Verbal and Non-Verbal Communication

verbal and non verbal communication 208x300 Verbal and Non Verbal CommunicationBelieve it or not, all of us speak to the world without having to say a word through non-verbal communication. Almost every facet of our personality is revealed through our appearance, our body language, our gestures, our facials expressions, our overall demeanor,and our posture and movements.

In our professional and personal lives, we’d like to think we could make friends and influence people if we verbally articulate our message with optimism, enthusiasm, charisma, poise and charm. However did you know that the verbal impact of communication only accounts for 7% of your overall message? The bulk of our communication comes across in our appearance and body language, comprising 55%. Tone, speed and inflection of our voice make up the remaining 38%.

Since non-verbal communication encompasses 93% of our overall message, here is a closer look at what that entails.

It can include your attire, tone of voice, clearing your throat, rubbing your eyes, crossing your arms, tapping your toes, scratching your nose. Eye contact, or lack thereof, gestures, crossed legs, open arms, and the scent we transmit are all forms of non-verbal communication. Through your choice of clothing, hairstyle, glasses, accessories, and makeup if applicable, your appearance also communicates a strong message. The way you dress plays a vital part in how listeners receive you and how others respond to you.

According to author John T. Molloy, who is responsible for Dress for Success, clothes are used as a tool to control how others react to you and treat you.

In an interview situation or during a business meeting, it is very important that you send out the right signals. Always look attentive and interested in the opportunity or conversation – do not slouch in your chair. If you fib, your body language, tone of voice or choice of words will probably give you away. Classic body language giveaways include looking everywhere other than the person you are speaking to and concealing your mouth behind your hands while speaking.

Not only is it important for us to be aware of our own body language, but it is as important to understand what body language means so we can effectively assess and react to others. For example, we may pass a negative judgment on someone because they slouch, fidget, or pout. If we are aware of why we made the judgment, we can filter out our biases and understand what their body language means and what it is telling us about that individual.

The most significant fact you should remember is that non-verbal signals have five times the impact of verbal signals. When the verbal and the non-verbal parts of the message are congruent, the listener believes your message. If they are not congruent, usually your words are saying yes, but your body language is saying no.

Always remember, actions speak louder than words.

What kind of experiences have you had with comparing verbal and non-verbal communication?

Recent Information Security Task

TheSecurityCycle 300x297 Recent Information Security TaskA client called me up the other day and asked me to come to his office. Once I arrived, he asked me to install a firewall so that his network would be secure. I asked him for his company’s security policy so I could configure the firewall. He gave me a curious look and asked, “What do I need that for?” In the years since the explosion of the Internet, this response is still the rule rather than the exception. Companies have comprehensive employee policies, sometimes filling two inch binders, but do not have information security policies. If they do, they will hand you 5 sheets of paper that cover the assets of a multimillion-dollar corporation. Just as employment policies describe the practices that employees and managers must take, security policies describe how the company wants to protect its information assets. That is an important concept to remember: Information is an asset. You might not be able to assign it a value, but your competitors might pay thousands or even millions of dollars to understand or even steal those assets.

Information security policies are high-level plans that describe the goals of the procedures. Policies are not guidelines or standards, nor are they procedures or controls. Policies describe security in general terms, not specifics. They provide the blueprints for an overall security program just as a specification defines your next product. Questions always arise when people are told that procedures are not part of policies. Procedures are implementation details. A policy is a statement of the goals to be achieved by procedures. General terms are used to describe security policies so that the policy does not get in the way of the implementation. For example, if the policy specifies a single vendor’s solution for a single sign on, it will limit the company’s ability to use an upgrade or new product. Although your policy documents might require the documentation of your implementation, these implementation notes should not be part of your policy.

Although policies do not discuss how, properly defining what is being protected assures that proper control is implemented. Policies tell you what is being protected and what restrictions should be put on those controls. Although product selection and development cycles are not discussed, policies will help guide in product selection and best practices during development. Implementing these guidelines should lead to a more secure system.

When management participates in the creation of information security policies, it demonstrates that management supports the effort, lending credibility to the entire security program. Having management support is always important. Without leadership, employees will not take policies seriously. Therefore, if you do not have the support of your upper management, your program is doomed to fail before you finish writing the policy.

First you can try to reason with them. You can point out that the systems and data have real costs. You can demonstrate how an outsider or a disgruntled insider can easily access sensitive information that could damage the company’s business functions. You can show them studies, articles, even this book. But if this doesn’t convince them, you might have to wait until your first disaster.

Management might say that everybody is responsible for his or her own security. That might work in the short term, but it prevents the company from working with itself. If one department uses one standard and another department uses another standard, interoperability could be a problem. Policies ensure that the company uses the same standards in every security instance. This consistency makes it easier for the company to integrate, interact with customers, and maintain a sense of security throughout the system.

Finally, an information security policy will help avoid liability. We live in a litigious society. If you try to enforce rules that are not expressly written, you will be sued. If you fire an employee for security violations that have never been written, presented to the employee, or previously enforced, that employee also can sue your company. I know it sounds harsh, but the reality can be devastating when the subpoena arrives.

Setting Goals

Setting Goals is a Key to Success 200x300 Setting GoalsIt’s incredible to see so many people out their achieving their goals in times like this. The clock is ticking and so many of us are doing things that we’ve only dreamed of.

There are five frogs and they’re all sitting on a log. Four of them decide to jump off.  How many are sitting on the log???  The answer is five.  Why?  Because their is a difference between deciding and doing.  You have to make a decision that do it!  You have to see it through to the end.  So many times we get started in things and then we just stop.  We meet an obstacle and instead of going “You know what?  I am going to find a way through this, I am going to learn it..I’m not sure how I am going to change but I am going to get together with my mentor and we are going to talk about it and figure this out!”.

We all dislike correction, don’t we?  Understanding that correction is constructive criticism is a way to take a step back and put things in perspective, because we are in the middle of it and we can’t see what we are doing wrong all the time.  When we are setting goals, we need to always remember to apply the “M.A.S.T.” (Meaningful, Achievement, Specific, and Time) equation to it.  Meaningful.  Is it going to benefit you and others.  Is it going to be something that I can make a difference in somebody else’s life too?  Achievement.  Ask yourself if the goal is achievable because sometimes we set are goals so far out there that when we get into it, we get to a point where we say to ourselves “What was I thinking, I can never do that”.  Well, then you’ve set your goal so high that in your own mind, you can’t achieve it.  SO ask yourself, “Is it achievable?”  Specific.  Is your goal defined, is it specific?  Sometimes we get out there and we are all pumped up and we’re like “whoo hoo…this is what it is and….”  What exactly is it?  We always have to know what we’re running for.  Then there is Time.  Do we have time on it?  Do we have a time limit?  If not, then it will be forever and we will keep running after this goal forever.

After we put a MAST on our goal, we then need to ask “How much is this going to cost?  What price is it that I’m going to have to pay for this goal?”  We ask ourselves this because we are going to have to determine what the price is that we are going to pay…if we don’t set the goal!  Understanding that there is a price for everything.  Check and Adjust.

Are you hanging around toxic people, or hanging around the people that inspire you!

Need Some Fun in Your Workplace?

A Day at the Office

When I came across this video I immediately knew that I had to share this with everybody.  I don’t know who this team of workers are but words can’t express how great I feel seeing others work together like this.  I hope you enjoy this as much as I do!

A Recent Feedback Lesson

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As part of a workshop, fifteen people who regularly observe my work were asked to give an assessment of how I was doing.  After receiving both quantitative data and some verbatim comments on my strengths and areas of improvement, this is what I found:

It is hard to get good feedback.  The default position in our cultures is: fear.  Fear of honest feedback and probably even more fear of giving it.  Fear of retribution.  Fear of hurting someone’s feelings.  Face it; authorities didn’t used to ask for feedback.  Parents didn’t want to hear it.  Siblings sure as heck didn’t.  Teachers hardly did.  There just aren’t a lot of people who model seeking and giving constructive feedback.  So, in our normal lives at work, people who could be helping us understand how to help them be more effective, and how to lead in ways that work, just don’t tell us.

Chris Brady’s “Rascal Manifesto”

The manifesto below is a contribution from leadership guru, Chris Brady.  Chris is one of the top leaders of our lifetime.  I hope you enjoy this as much I do.  God Bless

“I was born free and I intend to live like it.

This means that I will live my life while I’m alive.

No one owns me except my Creator.

No one can put me in a box, a category, a social group, a voting block, or a classification.

I am fiercely independent (interdependent).

I know that with my freedom comes responsibility.

I take responsibility for my own actions, and I hold the bar high on myself.

I am not afraid to struggle, because it’s the struggle that makes me great.

I know that excellence always lies on the other side of inconvenience.

I am a learning machine.

I read, I confront brutal reality, I grow.

Long term, no one and nothing can defeat me, because I will keep coming back, stronger and better than before.

I will educate myself about the true principles of freedom,

and I will strive mightily to preserve freedom for the next generation.

I rely on no man and no government to provide for me.

I will not follow the herd of mediocrity and victim-thinking.

I don’t follow herds, instead I run with a pack – a pack of Rascals.

Let others bask in their privileges, as for me, I will invest them in my purpose.

I will defy description.

I will charge the hill.

I will make a difference.

I’m a Rascal!”

Always Dream Big Enough

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There may come a time in your life where you have to make some hard decisions. When you do, half of the people will think you’re crazy and the other half will think you’re right.  You’ll need to make those decisions for yourself and your family when your time comes. I do believe the future is bright and my one hope is that I want anybody that reads to know that inside of you are the seeds of greatness. God blessed you with special gifts that only you have. Learn what those gifts are. I know that you can do anything in the world that you choose to do. You have to focus and always believe in yourself. Never beat yourself up for your past performance, just keep on striving to make your dreams come true. I know you are going to do something great in your future and that you can accomplish all you want and then some. Never give up on yourself. You know that it is better to go to bed tired knowing you give it your all than to go to bed lazy because you are striving for nothing. Keep on dreaming, it’s worth it. You are on your way to being the best. You will go beyond where you thought you could. I am proud of you for standing up against mediocrity and claiming yourself to be A DREAMER!! Yes, that is what you are and never ever forget it. Don’t let the fog take it away from you.

You’re the real deal my friend.

May God bless you and always be there for you.

The 45 Year Plan

45Plan751 300x225 The 45 Year PlanHave you ever heard about “The 45 Year Plan”?  The first time I heard of it was about a year ago when I was being recruited by a networking marketing organization.

They show it as a graph/report that was done by the U.S. government.  I believe it was the Department Of Labor.  I know of many people in the business that show “The 45 Year Plan” to their prospects.

This is how it was explained to me:

“Most people, about 95% of men and women in this country, work about 45 years of their lives.  Usually, this takes place between the ages of 20-65….give or take.  Most people start working after high school/college, up to the time they retire.

They spend 45 years of their lives at various jobs, or they’re self employed.  Think about that.

40 hours per week x 50 weeks per year= 2000 hrs./year
(52 weeks in a year…I’m taking out 2 weeks for vacation)
2000 hours x 45 years= 90,000 hours

This means most of us can expect to spend roughly 90,000 hours of our lives working…can you believe that?  Most people just trade time for money…and the cost of living keeps going up 6-10% each year!

And that’s not all.  When these people retire (the 95%ers), they can expect to live on one-half to one-third of their income.  Is that depressing or what?  Don’t be one of them!  I used to be a 95%er, now I’m a 5%er.  Hopefully you’re on the same path.

If you’re not already involved, get involved in Network Marketing.  There is a 2-5 year plan to help someone become job-optional…you won’t have to ‘work’ anymore!  A 2-5 year plan to make more money than you ever have.  A 2-5 year plan to create a REAL residual income!

Remember this equation…”Money + Time= FREEDOM”!

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